Balancing Departures and Destinations
By
Rabbi Neil Fleischmann
An unusual phraseology is employed in the opening line of
Parshat VaYeitzei. Instead of simply stating one or the other, we are told that
Yaakov both left (vayeitzei) Be'er Sheva and that he went towards (vayeileich)
Charan. The Maggid of Dubno, as well as the Beis
HaLeivi, point out that sometimes in life you leave a place because you
have to get away from there, while other times the key is that you have to go
somewhere and the only way to get there is by leaving the place you're in.
Here, Ya'akov needed to do both,
leave and go. In fact, he was fulfilling a mitzvah,
the mitzvah of kibud av va'eim, with each of these actions: His mother told him to
leave Be’er Sheva in order to flee
from his brother. And his father told
him to go to Charan to find a wife.
What is the lesson of this observation about the words vayeitzei and vayeileich?
In life, it sometimes seems that when we win in one way we are
also losing in another way at the same time. For example, you may need to get
somewhere, but the price you pay is leaving somewhere you wanted to be. Or you may need to leave somewhere and you to
escape to an unappealing place. It’s better if you can win and win, if your
leaving and your entering are both beneficial for you. But is that possible? Here,
Yaakov won doubly by the effects of
his actions – both his leaving and his going were of import, and sometimes we
can do that too.
On a related note Parashat
Masei starts by saying that the Jewish People’s leaving the places where they
camped was for the purpose of getting to their new destinations. Then the Torah
reverses the order and says the destination list was structured according to
their leaving other places. Why the change in order?
From God’s perspective
the point was that they had to get to their next station, which by necessity
meant they had to leave the place where they were. On the other hand, the
people were always restless. From their point of view, they just needed to get
out of where they were regardless of where they would end up.
Sometimes we need to move
toward a destination, and we mistakenly feel that this destination is all that
matters. We can pay sorely for focusing solely on our desire to move on, even
if moving forward is the right — the Divine — thing to do. We can fail to enjoy
the process of moving forward or the moment we’re in, a time that has its own
integrity and upon which we’ll one day look back with fondness. It is a shame
not to appreciate the here and now, which will too soon be later.
On the other hand we
can’t remain static. We need to always move forward. Sometimes we get so caught
up in the moment that we don’t recognize the need to move ahead. And yet even
when we do move ahead we need to keep in mind that where we go matters a great
deal. Neither God nor the people were wrong about the moves in the desert or in
life in general. At the same time that we need to leave one place we need to be
elsewhere.
The mishnah in Avot says "Hevei goleh limkom
Torah" - "Exile yourself to a place of Torah". There are two
halves here. There's hevei goleh, and there's limkom Torah.
Getting away from bad influences is one half while going to positive ones is
the other required piece if we seek spiritual success.
On a broader scale there is the concept of "Sur meirah
va'asei tov", "keep away from bad and do good" (as put by Dovid HaMelech). As much as possible in
life in all we do we should travelling away from negative roadblocks and moving
toward positive growth at the same time.
May G-d bless us with success in emulating Yaakov our father,
and our ancestors in their desert life, in effectively departing and going at
the same time.
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